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How to make right choices in your life

Making the right choice

Some life choices are easier to make than others. What to have for breakfast is inarguably an easier decision than choosing which employees to lay off. And yet, the difficult choices are the most character-defining. What constitutes making the "right" choice consists of assessing a number of factors related to the situation at hand. However, making decisions is aided by having a strong moral compass and relying on the advice of others.

1. Assess what you want from life. Knowing what you wish to achieve gives you the clarity to make choices in ways that better serve you. If you are unsure of your life goals, think of activities you perform where the concept of time disappears. Imagine a profession that you would perform 60 hours a week for little pay. Devise a list of decisions that bring you one step closer to fulfilling these ambitions. Ensure each of these choices does not harm others.

2. Gain input from others on ethical issues. When stuck in a moral dilemma, consult others for the best source of guidance. Ask a person whose input matters most; someone with strong moral fiber. Loyola Marymount University outlines a three-step process for solving ethical dilemmas at work. First, analyze the consequences. Determine which parties are helped or hurt by the action. Secondly, analyze the actions and how they measure up to principles of respect, dignity and honesty. Lastly, make a decision.

3. Use the "five whys" method. Ask "why" five times to get to the internal cause of your decision-making. Scott Ventrella, author of "Me, Inc. How to Master the Business of Being You," advises to think of a pressing issue and ask "why" for each answer: The most prescient will be the fifth answer on the chain of questioning. For instance, "I can't get my projects done on time." Why? "Because I'm overworked with school and a full-time job." Why? "Because I need money." Why? "Because I have to support myself." Why? "Because I don't know how to fill out the paperwork for my financial aid." Why? "I'm afraid to ask for help." From this analysis, the "right" choice is asking for help on paperwork. Recognize that the right choice is not always the most obvious.

4. Make choices from a place of love and respect. Use your emotions as a compass with respects to your decisions. If the choice is made during a bout of anger, hurt and resentment, the decision is not the right one. Postpone making decisions until your mental state is calm and collected.



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