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What is the right age to give your child a cell phone?
Sunday, 07 October 2018 00:00

What is the best age to get your child a cell phone?

Some parents consider cell phones for their young children as essential tools for staying in touch and keeping that line of communication open. Yet others argue that cell phone adoption among kids prematurely opens the door for threats like cyberbullying, sexting and inappropriate Internet use.

There’s room for debate and both sides present valid points, but the behind the discourse, the issue still begs – when should kids get cell phones?

According to a recent study by Elizabeth L. Englander at Bridgewater State, one-fifth of 3rd graders (8-years-old) already own their own cell phones. Her study for the Massachusetts Aggression Reduction Center (MARC) of more than 20,000 kids in the state between grades 3 and 12 aimed to research cell phone adoption and its impact on cyberbullying.

Of all children studied, Englander found that 20 percent of boys and 18 percent of girls in the 3rd grade have their own cell phones. The number climbs to 39 percent across both genders in 5th grade and jumps dramatically to 83 percent of kids in middle school with devices. While the study doesn’t specify if these cell phones are smartphones, it’s safe to assume that many modern cell phones nowadays have access to the Internet, texting capabilities and more.

In addition to cell phone adoption at earlier ages, Englander also found that by the 3rd grade, 90 percent of kids are already online, mostly playing games.

Due to the numbers she found, one of Englander’s conclusions from the study is that dialogue with kids about cyberbullying needs to start young. She states:

“Education on cyberbullying and cyber-behaviors needs to begin well before Middle School. Children are all online by third grade and over 20% report experiencing problems with peers online.

”Online bullying by age eight? That’s a frightening statistic.

Englander also found that as children progressed through school, more instances of bullying occurred. According to her study, bullying (physical and online) incidents affected half of kids in middle school which goes along with her figure of 90 percent of this age group using their cell phones to text and use the Internet.

So the question still remains – what age is the right age?

Unfortunately, there’s no cut-and-dry answer. Family circumstances, a child’s maturity level and the real need for a cell phone all contribute to when the right time is. Scott Steinberg, author of The Modern Parent's Guide high-tech parenting series, says that many families introduce cell phones during the tween and teen years and suggests giving a child access to a cell phone when “they will be outside of easily accessible contact and the need to maintain communication is imperative.”

He also offers the following recommendations:
• Consider buying a cell phone that dials only your contact number if and when kids need to come home alone. Prepaid cell phones can also let you limit call times and features, and monitor overall usage.
• Opt out of texting plans and choose a basic feature phone that forgoes bells and whistles such as downloadable apps and GPS tracking to limit children’s online interactions.
• Always read the manual, research and go hands-on with phones and smartphones before providing them to children. It's imperative to know the ins and outs of the cell phone you’re considering for your child before you give it to him or her.
• Consider restricting cell phone usage to only taking place in your presence until kids are mature enough to handle calls, texting and online interactions on their own.

The arguments for delaying a cell phone as long you can

There’s a chain of events that gets set off the moment you buy a cell phone for your child.  So before getting him one, consider how life might begin to play out when you do.

Cost. This is an obvious consideration.  There are ways to moderate it through different phones and plans, however the best conceived ideas combining kids, cell phones and saving money are at best a tough balancing act.  Take a prepaid plan with limited minutes, and the child can have them used up before he ever has a need to call you.  I’ve known people who have taken prepaid or very limited plans, only to convert them to something more generous a few months later.   They’re kids, so we have to have flexibility built into any plan, and that will cost extra.

Cell phones aren’t toys. As a rule kids tend to be casual about their possessions and instilling a sense of responsibility can be a challenge.  The younger they are, the more difficult this will be.   But to a child under ten just about anything  is a toy.  Not only will they drop it, toss it and play catch with it but they’ll find a way to use it for everything but its intended purpose.

Distraction. The younger children are the more easily they get distracted.   And while they already have plenty of distractions in their lives, cell phones add an extra dimension: they’re portable! Not only will your child be distracted when sitting in front of the TV or computer, but his phone will be a constant traveling companion that will keep him occupied when he should be doing other things.

Theft and loss. We all lose things, we all have items stolen from us.   But like it or not, kids lose them quicker, and seem to live in a world crawling with sticky-fingered peers.  Yes, there are insurance plans to help cover this, but a child can test the limits of just about any plan you have.   The younger your kids are, the more likely they are to lose their phones, or have them stolen.  This is a strong argument against providing phones for very young children.

Proper use. Now that cell phones are so common, they’ve also become an issue in school.  Use of cell phones in school is usually handled by confiscation.  At my kids’ schools, they can retrieve the phones at the end of the day on a first offense, and after that only the parent can get them back.  The younger the child, the more trips you’ll need to make to the front office to retrieve a confiscated phone.  I’m certain detentions are meted out after a certain number of confiscations.  The point is, your child needs to be able to comprehend and apply proper judgment on when and where to use his phone.

The arguments for giving it to them as young as possible

I’ve come up with fewer reasons for giving a child a cell phone earlier, but at least two of them are enough to offset a multitude of others.

Keeping tabs on them. As each year passes in a child’s life they venture farther from home and for longer periods of time.   As normal as this may be, as parents we still need to know where they are, especially when they’re young.  Cell phones are a critical way of maintaining a connection when kids out of sight.

Safety and emergencies. It should be enough that cell phones can give you immediate contact with your children in a crisis, but they do even more.  If you have young children and you’ve ever taken them to Disney World you’ll appreciate this point quickly.  No matter how careful you are, kids have a way of getting separated from their parents, especially in crowded places.  But if they have cell phones you’ll be able to find them quickly, and just as important, it will eliminate the panic that can set in when they disappear.  Ever since we got cell phones for our kids, trips to the park, the mall and yes, even Disney World, aren’t nearly as scary.

Social factors. This shouldn’t be a factor, but it’s a major consideration for your child.  As kids are getting cell phones at increasingly earlier ages, social factors become real.  No child wants to be one of only three kids in her class who doesn’t have a cell phone.   And worse, those cell phones “need” to be of a certain type, and carry socially desirable features to make the cut.  Like it or not, the social component will be a factor in your cell phone choice sooner or later.  My guess is sooner…

What we finally decided

Our son began pestering us for his own cell phone when he was ten.  Our plan was to get one for him when he got to high school, but reality has a way of turning the best laid plans into dust.We got one for him for his 12th birthday, and then a year later for our daughter when she turned 11.  Keeping tabs on them was reason number one, but safety and emergency considerations were a close second.One winter day—you know, that time of year when it starts to get dark shortly after lunch—my son was out playing with his friends and wasn’t home before nightfall.  We searched the neighborhood with no luck, all the time thinking to ourselves ”this wouldn’t be happening if he had a cell phone”. His birthday wasn’t for another three months, but the decision to get one for him was made that night—two years ahead of schedule.


Article by : parenting.com and parentingfamilymoney.com


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